Reflecting on Mark 8:27-35: Finding Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

In this powerful passage from Mark 8:27-35, Jesus poses a deeply personal question to His disciples: "But who do you say that I am?" This question is not just for Peter; it’s for each of us. For those recovering from narcissistic abuse, this question takes on profound significance. It invites us to reflect on our understanding of Jesus' identity and His role in our lives, especially as we navigate the aftermath of such hurtful experiences.

Jesus Knocks Gently

Jesus’ approach to us is gentle and respectful. He does not force His way into our hearts but knocks softly, inviting us to open up to Him. For many who have experienced narcissistic abuse, approaching Jesus can be challenging, especially if the figure of a male authority triggers past wounds. If this is the case, remember that you can always turn to God through the intercession of Mary or a saint who resonates with you. They can be a comforting bridge to Jesus, helping you find healing and solace.

Understanding Our Triggers and Responses

Our reactions to situations can sometimes be disjointed, influenced by past trauma and misaligned with our current reality. It’s essential to recognize that our triggers are not always linked correctly to the present moment. In these times, it’s helpful to bring our confusion and pain to Jesus, asking Him to help us discern the truth and find peace.

Denying Ourselves and Following Jesus

Jesus calls us to "deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me." This isn’t about denying ourselves to please others or to adhere to toxic expectations but about surrendering our plans and desires to God’s greater plan. It’s a call to align our will with His, not to the misguided leadership of past abusers. The battle of prayer is often a struggle of the mind, where we confront and overcome negative thought patterns and submit ourselves to God’s loving authority.

Rebuking Negative Thoughts

When we get stuck in mental loops or negative thought patterns, it’s crucial to remember Jesus’ words: "Get behind me, Satan." This rebuke is not only for spiritual opposition but also for the self-condemnation and doubts that plague our minds. When you face these mental battles, remind yourself of Jesus' love and His truth. He sees you as valuable and worthy, no matter the negative voices you may hear.

Seeking Our Purpose

If you’re uncertain about your mission or purpose, start with the mission of each day: to follow Jesus and prioritize Him in your life. This focus helps us move forward, trusting that as we seek Him, He will guide us to fulfill our unique calling.

What Jesus Thinks Matters Most

In the midst of recovery, it can be tempting to focus on others’ opinions and judgments. However, remember that what matters most is how Jesus sees you. He loves you unconditionally and desires your healing and wholeness. Focus on pleasing Him and living in alignment with His will for your life.

As you reflect on this passage, allow Jesus’ gentle invitation to draw closer to Him and embrace the healing He offers. In surrendering to His love and authority, you find the strength to overcome past wounds and step into the fullness of the life He has prepared for you.

Prayer:

Lord Jesus, I invite You into the deepest parts of my heart. Help me to see You clearly and to follow You faithfully, even through my pain and confusion. When I struggle with negative thoughts and past triggers, remind me of Your truth and love. Guide me in finding my purpose and living each day for You. May Your presence bring healing and peace to my wounded soul. Amen.

27 Jesus went on with his disciples to the villages of Caesarea Philippi; and on the way he asked his disciples, “Who do people say that I am?” 28 And they answered him, “John the Baptist; and others, Elijah; and still others, one of the prophets.” 29 He asked them, “But who do you say that I am?” Peter answered him, “You are the Messiah.”[a] 30 And he sternly ordered them not to tell anyone about him.

31 Then he began to teach them that the Son of Man must undergo great suffering, and be rejected by the elders, the chief priests, and the scribes, and be killed, and after three days rise again. 32 He said all this quite openly. And Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him. 33 But turning and looking at his disciples, he rebuked Peter and said, “Get behind me, Satan! For you are setting your mind not on divine things but on human things.”

34 He called the crowd with his disciples, and said to them, “If any want to become my followers, let them deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. 35 For those who want to save their life will lose it, and those who lose their life for my sake, and for the sake of the gospel,[b] will save it.